Balancing Your Relationship

You, Me and we

Having a "balanced relationship" is basically making time and space for "you, me and we."

One thing I’ve notice in a lot of relationships is the lack of a balance in it. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to a system; "you," "me," and "we."
Let’s understand this clearly. There are two different individuals who come together to form the third individual (relationship) all these three people are distinct one from the other.

Two people in love aside their relationship, essentially live separate life’s with different friends, few mutual decisions and little time spent together hence the need for a balance.

I believe two people in love should not try to spend all of their free time together because it will not help individual growth or the growth of their relationship. Successful couples are those that balance their separate lives with their life together.
Spending time together is important but how much time should two people spend together? In the beginning of every relationship, it is difficult for two lovers to stay away from each other and even if they did, they will use every method of communication (text messages, phone calls, e-mails, etc) to be close.
Not seeing your better half for two days may seem like torture. There are some people who think that they should spend every minute of the day together with their partners, because they think it will enrich their relationship. Do you agree?

Quality over quantity I believe is a good relationship advice. If a couple spends one day having a great time, the memories should last them another day or so, until they are free to meet again. Spending too much time together will not help; it can even make two people miss each other more.

Contrary to what many of us believe, spending too much time together hampers individuality and makes one narrow-minded. In short, spending too much time together will spoil you!
Concentrate on having a healthy relationship in which both of you can grow as individuals.

Follow your dreams. Don’t give them up. Don’t allow your relationship to stunt your growth, mentally and emotionally. A relationship may not last forever. So at the end of the day, your dream is the one thing you own completely.
Personally, I have very little experience with relationships but that notwithstanding, I hope my note was worthwhile…

Just sharing my thoughts…