Balancing Your Relationship

You, Me and we

Having a "balanced relationship" is basically making time and space for "you, me and we."

One thing I’ve notice in a lot of relationships is the lack of a balance in it. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to a system; "you," "me," and "we."
Let’s understand this clearly. There are two different individuals who come together to form the third individual (relationship) all these three people are distinct one from the other.

Two people in love aside their relationship, essentially live separate life’s with different friends, few mutual decisions and little time spent together hence the need for a balance.

I believe two people in love should not try to spend all of their free time together because it will not help individual growth or the growth of their relationship. Successful couples are those that balance their separate lives with their life together.
Spending time together is important but how much time should two people spend together? In the beginning of every relationship, it is difficult for two lovers to stay away from each other and even if they did, they will use every method of communication (text messages, phone calls, e-mails, etc) to be close.
Not seeing your better half for two days may seem like torture. There are some people who think that they should spend every minute of the day together with their partners, because they think it will enrich their relationship. Do you agree?

Quality over quantity I believe is a good relationship advice. If a couple spends one day having a great time, the memories should last them another day or so, until they are free to meet again. Spending too much time together will not help; it can even make two people miss each other more.

Contrary to what many of us believe, spending too much time together hampers individuality and makes one narrow-minded. In short, spending too much time together will spoil you!
Concentrate on having a healthy relationship in which both of you can grow as individuals.

Follow your dreams. Don’t give them up. Don’t allow your relationship to stunt your growth, mentally and emotionally. A relationship may not last forever. So at the end of the day, your dream is the one thing you own completely.
Personally, I have very little experience with relationships but that notwithstanding, I hope my note was worthwhile…

Just sharing my thoughts…

Divine is ONE!!!

It was a fairly cool Sunday afternoon at Ajah and environs. Nobody could tell whether or not the rain was going to pour considering Lagos’s unpredictable weather condition.

Though the weather wasn’t so friendly, it was good enough for a party and that was exactly what we had. My niece turn one year old a week today, but we picked today to have a little party for her.





Divine and mom


About 3:00pm and the event center was almost filled. Friends and well wishers were everywhere; for a 1 year old party, I didn’t envisage it to be this huge.

It wasn’t the greatest of parties but overall, it was a fairly good party but of course, there were little hitches here and there.

It offered me an opportunity to me met with, reconnect and do catching ups with a couple old friends and to meet new people too…

To all friends and well wishers, thank you so much for taking time out to come celebrate with us. It wouldn’t have been this good without you. Thanks again for your presents. We appreciate.

Special thanks to Hon. Lola Adeyeye aka big mummy…

We sincerely apologize for any unplanned event that must have unfolded. We can only say we will do better next time.

A very big thank you to my wonderful friends who assisted with the organization. I couldn’t have possibly done it alone.

Thanks y’all. Take care, stay safe and see you next year when DIVINE turns TWO…
Do have a Divine week.

Sample of the Invitation card.


Birthday pictures coming soon….

Can Men and Women just be Friends?

This question I believe is an ageless one. If you ask ten different people for their opinion on the subject you will likely get ten different answers and reasons for why they believe what they believe. My opinion – it depends on the people involved.

I think there are some people who can form friendships with the opposite sex and have it remain a friendship and nothing more. They are aware of their own personal boundaries and have the ability to enforce these boundaries at will. Most importantly, they are also able to distinguish the difference between friendship and a romantic relationship, which may be the key to their success.

There are others, however, who are not able to form successful friendships with the opposite sex. They may be too easily tempted by kindness and flirtation, or they may not be able to easily distinguish the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship.
Some may even have difficulty either setting boundaries or enforcing them. Regardless of the reason, some people simply should not form friendships with the opposite sex because it just doesn’t work for them. Regardless of which category you fall into, it is important to understand that given the nature of the male/female relationship there are always risks associated with forming these friendships.

Forming friendships with the opposite sex can become particularly complicated because no matter how genuine a friend may seem, one can never be truly sure about their intention.
It’s true that not everybody would take advantage of our vulnerability intentionally. The truth, however, is that you never really know what is going on in someone else’s mind and so you can never really be sure of their true intent.
I don’t intent to evoke fear, or to advise you not to trust anybody of the opposite sex. My intention is to simply illustrate how the male/female friendship is extremely complex.

Everybody is different. Some people can form successful friendships with members of the opposite sex, while others are better off staying clear of them.
If you insist on forming friendships with the opposite sex, you need to set some ground rules and make sure that your relationship with this friend is clearly defined in your minds before you pursue it. If this sounds like too much work, please play it safe and simply don’t turn to your girl/guy for friendship.