Speak up

Many people today are often too scared to speak up when they should. In a bid to avoid rejection and criticism by others and the society at large, we oftentimes shut our mouth and swallow so much of what we shouldn’t swallow up.

There are a lot of people faced with lot of issues and challenges yet don’t want to talk about them so I wonder how they are going to get help.

At times all you need for an issue to go away is to talk about it but we seldom talk about the real things that trouble us. Some of us want to be seen as one with less or no problems but that is where we get it wrong.

There is nobody in the world that hasn’t gotten a problem or two. We all smile and laugh with each other but dip down we know there is a burden that we wish could just go away.

The first step involved in being liberated is “speaking up” so speak up. If you don’t speak up, you can’t fight for or against. Only you truly know what troubles you and if you don’t speak up, how can anyone know?

Many people have missed great opportunities because where and when they should have spoken up, they failed to speak up so the opportunity comes and goes begging.

Many are those in abusive relationships yet they fear to speak up for the fear of not losing whomever. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in that relationship. An abusive relationship isn’t something that anyone should stomach up.

Anyone in any of such relationship obviously needs help so if you are one of such, speak up.
Don’t think that the hurt you feel inside will pass with time. Hurt and pains only get deeper with time.

There are many women that are suffering from domestic violence yet won’t speak up. To them, speaking up is weakness. They say a real woman can deal with anything.

There are also loads of children who are being abused even right under their parent’s roofs, by uncles, aunties, relatives and whomever but because they’ve not been thought to speak up, they keep quiet and wallow in pain and misery.

I use to be someone who hardly talked about anything that troubled me. I concealed every form of discomfort. I felt no matter the situation I was in, it was going to die or phase-out with time but I was wrong.
For a long while, I wallowed in loads of pain, hurt and discomfort until I realized the value of speaking up.

Speak out your fears. Somebody might hear and help you get through them.
Speak out your worries. Somebody might hear and help you get over them.

Of course it is not everything that you will blatantly say out but certain things shouldn’t be concealed. If you feel speaking up would bring you trouble, concealing it certainly will bring you more trouble because if you are troubled within, you will inadvertently be troubled without.

There is at least someone around that you can talk to/with and even confide in. If you can’t find anyone like that then you probably haven’t looked well enough.
If you don’t speak up, no one will hear you let alone reach out to help you. Don’t whisper where you should speak out. Speak up! Even if nobody hears you, God hears you.

Speak up against domestic violence, speak up against child abuse, speak up for what’s right, speak up for good morals and values, speak up for responsible living; speak up for good governance.

Think about this; all the crimes and bad things happening around are not only because of wrong doings of the bad ones but more because of the silence of the good ones. SPEAK UP FOR A BETTER WORLD.

SPEAKING UP IS NOT WEAKNESS. IT IS WISDOM SO SPEAK UP.

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Our words matters

Have you ever been in an unhappy situation and somehow someone shows up and says something nice to you and suddenly you begin to smiles? Yes! That’s what kind words do.
People battered and wounded by life situations are often healed by the words of encouragement we dish out to them. Kind words can bring back the lost, change the past and correct the present.

Words are like seeds. If we sow the right words, it can inspire someone to reach his or her potential. If we sow the wrong words, it will bring about deceit, strife, malice etc.

Human beings are such that even when we are wrong, nobody likes been corrected so be careful with how you correct others.
Be humble with your words. Hurtful words can escalate an already dreadful situation. A true friend always cares about the feelings of others so always speak the truth in love.

Many of us have broken hearts, broken trust, broken friendships and relationships because of the hurtful things we’ve said about someone.
If you hear something about someone, don’t hurriedly jump into conclusion.

Ask yourself if it is true. If you are not certain whether it’s true or not, say nothing. The truth will always reveal itself with time so wait. Careless words break trust; careless words break friendships; careless words cost lives.

Anyone who cannot control his/her tongue inadvertently will speak wrong and hurtful words so please endeavor to control your tongue and watch what you say.

When people say cruel and hurtful things to you, you shouldn’t say hurtful things back nor curse them. Words have creative powers and nobody can take back what they’ve already said. I RETRACT MY STATEMENT RETRACTS NOTHING. Once it’s said, it’s said.

Be quick to say words like “I’m sorry”. It doesn’t matter who caused what; a sorry heart is a cheerful heart. Do not say to someone I WILL BE THERE FOR YOU if you know you won’t and do not say I LOVE YOU if you don’t mean it. Our words require us to be responsible.

Always bear in mind that you more likely to regret the things you say than the things you don’t say. Hurtful words can cut like a knife. It might take you just three seconds to say them but its effect can last a life time so be careful what you say because YOUR WORDS MATTERS.

Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body. Proverbs 16:24 (AMP)

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Celebrating Fathers

Fathers are the least appreciated amongst our parents. (I stand to be corrected though)

If I’m to ask ten people who amongst their parents they like the most, seven are bound to go for their mothers. Why? Mothers are caring, loving and affectionate; they easily understand and they don’t scold as often as daddy etc.

Well, the truth is, we all love our dads but we are fonder of our mothers… It is a natural phenomenon and I don’t think it will change. Many of us feel more comfortable being around our mother than our father. (Very few exemptions)

Leave or take, the importance of a father in one’s life can never be over emphasized. Father’s are integral parts of our lives; in fact, they gave us life…

They are the bread winner; they provided shelter, clothing, food; they pay the bills (Medical, school, water, electricity etc); and together with our mothers, they guide and help us mold our lives properly.

Take fathers away and life will look vague and ambiguous.

To some of us, the fear of our father is the beginning of wisdom. *He smiles… (Those with strict fathers will understand better)

We all need to first be grateful to GOD for giving us wonderful fathers and be thankful to our fathers for always been there for us and always been alive and committed to their responsibility.

For many reasons, some people don’t have fathers but that doesn’t make them bastards. In fact, there are no bastards. There are only irresponsible fathers.

If you fall under this category, please don’t feel bad. Always know that the greatest father of all is undoubtedly our Heavenly.

Not all of us have/had outstanding fathers. Some have/had great fathers and some have/had not so great father but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t respect our fathers. Every father deserves to be respected and appreciated.

Some people feel like they’ve grown so they talk back at our fathers. I have seen it a lot of times and I must say it is so wrong. No matter what/who your father is, he deserves to be respected. God in his infinite wisdom brought you to life through him.

Don’t walk out on your father because he couldn’t pay the bills and don’t talk back at him because you owe school fees. What you should do is to love, respect and pray for him to be alive to his responsibilities. Being a father is not an easy thing.

My late dad wasn’t the greatest father in world but to me, he was the best. He taught me so much and I can never stop thanking God for giving me him.

As a human being, daddy had his weakness but so also had he his strengths. He was a man with a great mind and I just wish he is still around.

Nevertheless, I have no doubt in my heart that he is happy for the man I have become. I miss you daddy and I love you endlessly.

This part of the note is dedicated to Comfort Maxwell; Ebi Smart; Victor and Victoria Ita; Promise Ekpe; Esther Sunday; Oluchi Adingupu; Nduka, Estelle and Amechi Chukwuemeka; Me and my siblings and anyone who have lost their father.

Death, though a natural phenomenon, isn’t a pleasant experience especially when it involves a loved one. And in this case a father.

If you’ve lost your dad, please don’t grieve for long. Death is just another stage in life. God knows best so put your total trust in HIM. Believe that if He took your father away, He is going to be your father and guess what? HE will care of you like no one else would.

I know you miss your dad; it is normal that we miss our loved ones when they are no more. Know that you are not alone. God is with you and everything will get better with time. Just trust GOD…

Our daddies might have passed on to glory but their memories will continue to live on in our hearts. May their gentle souls rest in the bosom of the Lord.


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Women are humans too (Guys treat them right)

Not every one of us guys had our father around to teach us how to be a man. We just learn as we grew so I guess some of us deserve some credits for being great guys… (Ladies please applaud)

Being a man is much more than being a male. It is putting your family first, always being there for you children, forsaking all other women and making your wife your only true queen, not breaking the vows of matrimony and most importantly, staying committed to God.

Interestingly, not all our dads fit this description. In fact, many don’t even come close but that doesn’t mean they aren’t great dads. They are. They are great fathers and wonderful husbands (at least that is what mummy will say).

I find it very fascinating that there are more irresponsible men than responsible ones; more fatherless babies that motherless babies; more single mothers than single fathers etc why?

Is it that men are not doing well enough or what? It’s a man’s world isn’t it? So why aren’t men making the most of their world?

Come to think of it, the phrase “it’s a man’s world” is a phrase I think is demeaning to the whole of womanhood.
Instead of saying “it’s a man’s world”, I would rather we say “it’s a human’s world” because if it solely a man’s world then it certainly means women don’t belong here.

This kind of statement often leads people into discriminating against women and long before they know it, they start to discriminate against their very own wife, sisters and mother.

Women are humans too. If they were lesser beings, God wouldn’t have created them.
Women they say are everywhere but good women obviously aren’t everywhere but that notwithstanding, women everywhere deserves respect.

I frown at guys who delight in hitting their girl friends and men who have turned their wife into punching bags. The practice of hitting a woman is very wrong and should not be encouraged.
The fact that you saw your daddy or your grand daddy do it doesn’t mean it is the right.

I know some women are very provocative but hitting a woman is never right under any circumstances.
Provocation will always make you do something that you will regret later so I believe no matter how hard someone provokes you, the best thing to do is to walk off and cool off.

The truth is, real men don’t hit their women.

Lately, there have been a lot of noise about gender equality… the truth of the matter is, both genders can never be equals because God made it so. God in his infinite wisdom placed man as the head of woman and that will never change. However, that doesn’t mean women don’t have their place.

Guys! As future husbands and fathers, it is very important that we inculcate in us an attitude of appreciating the women God has placed in our lives (beginning from mothers, sisters, female friends to our wives) because they are God’s gift to the universe and all we need to do is love them and treat them right.

If your woman is not getting along, take your time and help her understand you and every other thing. Don’t hit her. Don’t say mean things to her. Make her your QUEEN and she will surely make you her KING.

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Love is in the Air

It’s a season of love and indeed love is in the air. Not just the love between the opposite sexes but love for all of humanity.

Many people will take this time to rekindle their love and spend quality time with their partner; some too will simply blow their partner away with amazing surprises.

It is a good thing to celebrate your partner in this season of love but also know that you don’t necessarily have to wait for valentine to show whomever how much they mean to you.

Every day is a good day to show the ones that mean the world to you how much they really mean to you. I know love in itself cannot be quantified but it certainly can be expressed so go out, have fun but not too much fun. And if you must DO IT please PROTECT YOURSELF but like I always say, ABSTAINACE still remains a very wise DECISION.

Valentine is a time to show love and not a time to take advantage of the ones we claim we love, do things we are not prepared for or make UNWANTED babies.

Valentine only comes once in a year but love is always around all through the year. In as much as you celebrate love with/for that/those very special person(s), equally celebrate love for all of humanity for love is the very essence of existence.

It is no news that love is the most powerful force in the world. Love is one thing that transcends culture, tribe, race or skin colour. Everyone is capable and deserving of love so show love to everybody…

Ok! Maybe you are thinking… Why is Emma talking so much about love? Is he in love or is he some sort of love ambassador? Well, I am a self acclaimed love ambassador and I will continue to push for us to love ourselves as long as God keeps me alive.

Let’s face facts; hatred is by no means man’s friend. It has caused so much harm and it is still causing much harm.
Hatred restricts; love releases. Hatred strangles, love gives freedom. Hatred brings remorse; love brings peace. Hatred agitates; love calms. Hatred divides; love unites.
Hatred hardens; love softens. Hatred hinders; love helps. I guess it is even now much clearer that hatred has absolutely nothing to offer humanity but love is loaded with so much for us all.

It’s not a season to hold on to hurt so forgive freely and love like you've never been hurt. Make that phone call. Mend that broken friendship; you won’t regret it.

Let all that you do from the time forth, be done in love and don’t forget to show love to all and not only to those you know or because of what you’d get in return.

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Love is all that matters

Love is the singular most important thing missing in our world today. Many people have narrowed love down to be something that only exists between a man and a woman.

Love is a nature of God and in so far as we were created in the image and likeness of God; His (love) nature exists in all of us.

Doctrine has made us behave cold toward our fellow humans. Many people are of the opinion that so long as an individual does not belong to their religion, then that one is bond to have cruel intentions towards them.

Is that what religion teaches us? Seriously does being religious make one a better person? Ideally, religion is supposed to help mold us in becoming better persons. Ironically, today’s religion is a shadow of what true religion ought to be.

Religion has become one of the world’s major problems. Instead of molding us to become better person(s) in order for us to build for ourselves a better society, religion is tearing us apart.

Though every religion teaches about the value of a human life, we still have people today who are willing to take the lives of others for the sake of the same religion.

Religion is a thing of peace so how come we have stuffs like “religious violence”? Unfortunately everywhere in the world, religion has become a major course of conflict. These conflicts has taken thousands (if not millions) of human lives and caused a great pain on our planet for years.

The truth is, no man can fight for God. More so, God never asked any of us to fight for Him. Did he?

I’m not saying being religious is wrong… no! I’m only saying the manner in which we practice religion is not the best. No wonder why it’s said that “true religion lies in the hearth”.

No matter what religion one belongs; when it’s comes to belief, each group has its own belief of what is right and what is wrong, what is true and what is false that is why in as much as we try to avoid conflict, we still somehow fight.
As long as you believe that only your way is right, and somebody else believes his way is right, there is bound to be conflict.

My big question is “can’t we be religious and be good human beings as well”? I believe religion and humanity can co-exist and love is the only agent that can bring this about.

Love is one big agent of change. Love is one thing that transcends race, tribe or colour. With love in our hearts we will not want to hurt another let alone take their lives.

Love can curb the fighting’s, kidnappings, killings, wars, terrorism, bombings and all other ugly incidents’ that plague our world today. Love can heal our world.

It doesn’t matter if you are a Greek or a Jew, or a Christian or a Moslem. Love is all that matters and it is in all of us.
Love is more important than anything else. It is what ties everything completely together.

I don’t know if you share in my thought but I believe that this world can become a better place for all if we begin to love each other as ourselves.

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Choose Or Lose

With the most anticipated elections ever in Nigeria’s history fast approaching, preparations are already in top gear. One of such preparation is the ongoing nationwide voter’s registration exercise.

I and many others are of the opinion that this is Nigeria’s time to get it right. In order for us to get things right, we have to do things right and one way we can do so is to go out en-mass and register so that come April, nothing will stop us from being able to exercise our franchise.

For so long, we have cried over bad leadership. This is the times to change our fortunes and I believe with over 60million eligible youth voter’s, we can for the first time in this country democratically elect a leader that will serve us.

Many people take likely to the importance of the ongoing voter’s registration exercise. INEC we know are faced with a lot of challenges (slow machines, theft etc) but amidst of this, they are trying very hard to get everyone eligible to registered.

I heard INEC’s is considering extending the period of the exercise so that everyone gets the opportunity to register.

We need to understand that the voter’s card is the only means by which we can vote during the elections proper. And aside the card been a voting ticket, it will also serve as a form of national identification (a national ID card) for all.

Not everybody has an intentional passport or a driving license so it is wise to go get something that will identify us nationally. One can perform banking and other transactions with the card.

Another good this is that, “the card is free”… getting an international passport will cost you, getting a driving license will also cost you but the voters card is free for all so go get yours now…

It’s our civic responsibility to the country we owe our allegiance to so I entreat everyone eligible to vote to go out to the nearest registration center, Get registered; Get their card and Vote wisely come April.

Naija oni baje o…

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